They shrink into a very narrow world, become immobile, and no longer respond appropriately to outside influences. Because of their inability to compare with the feelings of others, they have many wrong judgments about others and about themselves. It’s Paddy Not Patty Ye Feckin Eejit. Willingness to talk to others and to worry about others is a way out of self-restraint. Doing something for others is important for our spirituality. For example, someone who is looking for a beautiful gift and sees the joy of the gift recipient is also giving it to himself.